In life we are presented with so many choices; it’s hard to make any decision, let alone make the BEST decision. How do we keep to the Standards of Excellence we’ve set for ourselves when planning for college, marriage, or what to name our offspring?
I approach each decision reminding myself that I’m not the first person who’s made this decision, and I certainly won’t be the last. You’re not the first person to decide to elope or have a baby. You’re not the first person to decide that marriage or babies aren’t for you. Nothing you do is earth-shattering. Everything you do or don’t do, society has been there, done that. I find that thinking of things that way removes a lot of the tension. Shave your head and get a tattoo? Who cares? Cut your own ear off? Picasso did it already. Just relax and do what’s right for you.
Another helpful thing to remember is that any decision you make, you can undo. This is true for everything except sex and murder, which is probably why each is mentioned in the Ten Commandments.
I applied for grad school last year. I was accepted. I signed up for classes, bought my textbooks, and went to New Student Orientation. I sat through each college’s presentations, and as I looked around the room, I realized that I did not have the desire to spend the next thirty or so years of my life pursuing this career. I waited politely for orientation to end, no dramatic Hollywood exits for me, and then I went home, emailed my advisor to let him know I was dropping out of the program. That’s right. I’m a grad school drop-out. I returned my textbooks, dropped my classes, and never looked back. And sure, I got a full refund for the books and tuition because the semester hadn’t started yet, but even if I had finished the semester, or a year before realizing this new degree wasn’t for me, I would have dropped out.
It’s NEVER TOO LATE to correct course and change your life. Don’t think of everything you’ve sunk into the path you’re on. Think of the resources including your time you’re about to free up to pursue something more worthwhile to you!